A heartwrenching yet beautifully crafted memoir about two intelligent, attractive sisters—one of whom escaped years of abuse by men, and one who did not…. More >>
If I Am Missing or Dead: A Sister’s Story of Love, Murder, and Liberation
A heartwrenching yet beautifully crafted memoir about two intelligent, attractive sisters—one of whom escaped years of abuse by men, and one who did not…. More >>
If I Am Missing or Dead: A Sister’s Story of Love, Murder, and Liberation
An interesting story, but one I cannot relate to whatsoever! First of all the author is a self-proclamed feminist, but she puts up with her abusive husband for way too long. And then the whole breast implant thing and the way he “makes” her dress totally kills me! I want to believe her, but for whatever reason I can’t. Maybe if her and her sister would have stuck to their Catholic roots instead of praying to the “universe” things would have turned out differently!
Rating: 3 / 5
This is a HORRIBLE book. I am glad that I only paid $5.98. Janine is simply using her sister’s death to get published. The title is VERY misleading; Amy is not the focus of the book. The focus of the book is Janine’s pathetic life and marriage. Who cares…stop feeling sorry for yourself!?!?! The only reason I did not stop reading this book was because I felt I owed it to Amy to get to her story. Sadly Amy only appears in the last few chapters and there is little to even make you feel connected to Amy or the rest of the family. Janine couldn’t even take time away from her pathetic life to join the family until they received word a body was found and it could be Amy’s body. I was really offended at the end when Janine mentions how much it cost to fly to claim her sisters body. If you are as close as she says was with Amy, money wouldn’t even be a consideration. It is clear that Janine loves being the center of drama and does not care how she needs to get there. She should be ashamed using her sister to get published. Do not buy this book!
Rating: 1 / 5
Clearly Janine Latus has used her sister’s death as a lever to enter the book publishing world. As many others have noticed, the title leads one to anticipate a tale of Amy’s life and death. Half way thru the book I began to realize that Amy’s murder was just a come on so that Janine could tell the story of the most important person…herself!
It was at this point that the writing became redundant and the author unlikeable. After Janine gives us the basic outlines of her marriage to Kurt, she incessantly belabors the points with tale after tale. I almost wanted to shout ‘I get the point already!’.
It is clear that Janine was too caught up in her own psychodramas to notice her sister’s slide into a destructive relationship. From this book, it appears not much has changed.
Rating: 2 / 5
I was a little disappointed when I began to read the book. I thought it would be more about Amy’s life/disappearance/murder. Instead it was about the author’s life with snippets thrown in about Amy. I am lucky that I have a husband who loves me and does not abuse me physically or mentally so I had a hard time reading about the author and how she let her husband control her life. (Especially telling her ’she wanted’ to have bigger breasts!) She was quite aware that her sister was letting her ex-husband use and abuse her but couldn’t see that in her own life. I was glad to see the author finally woke up and left the marriage. It is too bad no one was able to save Amy!
Rating: 4 / 5
The book wasn’t the worst I’ve read but it also wasn’t the best. I felt like the author talked alot more about herself and how “sexy” she was rather than about her sister. It is very unfortunate about her being in a bad marriage, but also think she is really full of herself!
Rating: 3 / 5